I’ve slept with men and women over the years but always felt more organically attracted to men as the sex felt “right” and I’d always feel more content afterwards.’ I was also once under the staircase with a boy in primary school and he kissed me, and I got butterflies.
‘I had a huge crush on Will Smith in the ‘Welcome to Miami’ video (in the white vest) and had the artwork from the CD stuck to my wall.
Topher Taylor says he always knew he liked boys and that is just felt natural. Of course, some people can grow up knowing they aren’t straight. I feel amazing to have finally worked out my sexuality and understand what and who I am attracted to.’ Now I’m older I realise there were boys at school I was attracted to, I just mistook that as thinking they were cool, wanting to hang out or be more like them - actually I just wanted to kiss them. But one thing lead to another and I realised I liked kissing boys on the dance floor. ‘I didn’t think I was anything other than straight because I’d always liked girls growing up. Most people assume we’re born with a fixed sexual orientation, but recently we’ve come to understand that sexuality is fluid and can change over the course of our lives.įran Polito How real people knew they were gayįor Lewis Oakley, who identifies as bisexual, moving to London aged 19 was the first time he ever saw gay people "in action". Sadly we live in a culture which gives us the idea that it's more “normal” or “better” to be straight than it is to be gay, bisexual, pansexual, queer, etc. ‘First of all, it's really important to remember that whatever your sexuality is - and however you decide to label it - is absolutely fine. ‘It's actually really common to question your sexuality’, explains sex and relationship expert, therapist and author Dr Meg-John Barker. Most people question their sexual orientation at some point. If you find yourself asking, ‘am I gay?' you are not alone. While many gay and lesbian people say they always knew, that’s not always the case and there are just as many adults who come out later in life.īut how do you know if you are gay (or any of the wonderful identities along the LGBTQ+ spectrum and Kinsey Scale - from bisexual and pansexual to queer), or just going through a period of questioning your sexual orientation? We spoke to sexuality experts, therapists and LGBTQ+ health care professionals to help you Am I gay? Regardless of your age, asking yourself ‘Am I gay?’ or questioning your sexuality is perfectly normal.